As humans, we tend to be very hard on ourselves; especially us women! We pick ourselves apart about almost everything. I know for me, I used to pick myself apart on a daily basis. That was a stupid thing to say Molly. Why did you just eat that Molly, you don't need to be eating that. You used to fit into these pants a few weeks ago, looks like you don't anymore. You get my point!
These thoughts won't ever go away, but we do have the power to control how we think about ourselves.
The biggest learning lesson that I've had this past year is that I need to have more compassion for myself. We tend to have compassion for others, but very rarely have compassion for ourselves. For example, let's say you totally messed up at work. What is your usual response? For me, I would tear myself apart for doing something so stupid. Then, feeling crappy, my confidence and self-esteem would take a dive. Then I would go around the rest of the day in a total slump, sometimes even turning to comfort foods to make me feel better. By the time I would crawl into bed, I was in self-loathing mode, feeling my absolute worst. If I had just had compassion for myself in the beginning when I made the boo boo, I wouldn't have spiraled into my emotions.
We are human, we are MEANT to make mistakes. We learn from those mistakes and we know what not to do, or what we can do better next time. Learning to have compassion for yourself in those moments will help you move past it and move forward. If not, you're most likely going to dwell on it for the day, or the next week or maybe even the next month!
Remember that what's done has been done. We can't go back in time and change we has happened. Did you eat a whole bag of potato chips and now you feel terrible about yourself? Did you forget to call your sister and tell her happy birthday? Whatever it may be, we can't change the past. If it's a situation that involves someone else, try and make things right! Apologize; show that person that you're sorry and you care about them. But remember to forgive yourself and start practicing compassion.
When we practice compassion towards ourselves, we can start feeling more empowered to take positive action.